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Interior Relationship

When the man and the woman are valued it is difficult getting their differences at the level of the discussion. When we have something that bothers us within the relationship with our partner, we must ask ourselves: what is the problem that I have in my mind or in my heart that I have not Unable to resolve? We are different and imperfect, but that knowledge should take me to face our differences in a respectful manner so that these not abused or completely undermine the relationship. It is required to be, objective, clear, and accurate, when we went to talk with your partner about the problem or the difference that affects us. We can not be vague, we must fully identify what causes discomfort in the relationship, without wanting to solve several problems at once. We must be aware that a problem we have to face it and solve it, without trying to find reasons to justify its existence. Both must be fully aware that in a relationship, late or early difficulties appear, but as they arise should resolve them with favourable for both solutions and looking for not only a personal gain.

Selfishness is often the biggest obstacle to achieving an understanding between two people. Anything by trivial as it may seem we should put in knowledge of the other. Are not the important issues, the children’s education, the the site to buy or build the place that we select for our vacation, etc., House religion, the kind of work that we are going to develop, what usually ends up being the cause of a separation. Few couples who end up separating for a root cause. I believe that no lawyer has had to meet a couple because although we want much, not we have failed to reach agreement itself save money that we think we spend on vacation or we’re going to Europe. The major difficulties are almost always presented in minor problems. The only thing that he wants a weekend, is watching its football on television, or read your favourite book.

If we do not leave you can pass all weekend without showering. Then ask for what my lack of enthusiasm to make love. They are apparently unimportant things, but they have a great capacity to produce irritation and annoyance, rather than any really important problem. Then when these trifles reach already tired too, we transform them into differences older.

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